My step-mom thinks I'm too much of a perfectionist. Which she's true. But I know I need to work on it! I hate being a young professional because I make mistakes- and I'm not used to that! I've always been good at things and never do anything wrong. Now it's impossible to be a perfect teacher ever- let alone your first few years. But I still beat myself up over my mistakes! I need to work on that. It's normal to not be perfect! :)
This is from a talk from Elder Cecil O. Samuelson (2002, MTC and printed in the New Era- read it here)
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Doing Your Best | Perfectionism |
You desire to give things your best efforts and are satisfied when you do. | You have a list of “shoulds” and “have to’s” and are dissatisfied even if you complete them. |
You know it’s okay if you make a mistake. You move on and see your mistake as an opportunity for growth or learning. | Mistakes bring feelings of self-hatred. You don’t want to do anything because you are afraid of failure. |
You want to do your personal best, and you try not to compare your achievements to those of others. You don’t need to be the best at all things. | You feel tremendous pressure to earn others’ approval. You must be the best or “perfect” in your tasks. |
You can find joy in doing the things you love, and you can get things accomplished. | Your need to do things perfectly leads to procrastination until you have time to do it “perfectly,” and you feel driven by fear or duty instead of love. |
Trying to do your best and perfecting yourself “line upon line” with the Savior’s help is Christ-centered because you need the Atonement. | Perfectionism is self-centered. You measure yourself against your own standards and against others’ standards, not God’s. |
1 comment:
Thank you for this post; it is exactly what I needed to hear tonight. I feel so much lighter now.
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